His reaction as been to do pretty much all the above.
but how when I think he is still seeing her or at least texting in the bathroom like another member stated her husband did.
The way the betrayed deal with trauma caused by infidelity is by talking about their feelings.
If a guy I was with thought that way about doing those acts, I'd go do them with someone else too.
You don't have power in this relationship, you went back, instead of making her come to you.
Your marriage and your peace of mind and family life are at stake here.