—and focus on something that relaxes you, like a favorite vacay spot, or turns you on, like a sexy scene from a movie you just saw.
" Same goes with the penis.
"The clitoris is the center of everything — but don't be afraid to engage the entire vulva, such as the inner and outer labia and the mons pubis.
"This allows you to move closer or further away and shift the sense of pressure you may feel from their tongue," says Fleming.
Is her vaginal opening particularly sensitive? So it's natural for women to experience some sort of insecurity when their husbands or partners seem disinterested in giving them pleasure in this way.
You might want to rest your arms over your headboard to lift your vulva slightly so as not to put too much pressure on your partner's chest.